BEING YOU, BEING TRUE TO YOURSELF: EXAMPLE OF LATE CLETUS CHANDA
Those of you who are in your late 20 going up will remember that we once had a very happy comedian on TV who rose through the ranks and became Zambia National Tourists Board Spokesman called Cletus Chanda, very famous at his time, very handsome with a ka small round face and satellite dish type of ears he resembled Samuel Eto.
While Cletus rose through the ranks and became famous, little did people know he was depressed and had issues. At the height of his fame, Cletus committed suicide.
The Nation was Shocked!
People just couldn’t understand what had just happened. Why would such a progressive young man, with so much potential, a very good job, nice house, happily married do such a thing??
Anyway, I think that’s the story with most of us…
While we seem happy and content on the outside, inside we really are hurting with a lot of unresolved feelings and hurts and disappointments… People aren’t always as they seem, inside many people are hurting, and like a chameleon, most have adapted to their situations and become masters of cover-ups.
Why do you think many people drink too much? Why you think there is so much effort on Facebook to look gorgeous and flawless from the ladies?
Many seek approval, wrong approval from man and not themselves and God. Mac powder and Brazilian hair and an expensive black or red lipstick can’t take away the pain love, it can hide your wrinkles but most definitely never take away the hurt and pain you have inside.. Wearing expensive clothes is nothing, going out to fancy places is nothing, ITS HOW YOU FEEL INSIDE THAT COUNTS..
Getting 250 likes on Facebook and pausing with fake happiness on a photo for people to see on Facebook won’t take away your inner despair, loneliness, frustrations, depression and pain.
If you know you have inner issues, begin to confront your problems one by one, begin to ask what is stealing your joy and happiness begin to be truthful to yourself and one by one begin to uproot your emotional disturbance and pain…
Many people who seem the happiest and ever smiling indeed are the saddest and loneliest souls on Earth. Instead of confronting their real situation, they have happy with their mediocre lifestyle and will do anything and everything to pause as happy but inside they are really hurting
No my brothers and sisters, that’s no way to live. Public opinion means nothing, the sooner you get that, the quicker you are on your way to happiness and genuine peace..
I mean what’s the use of taking a fake selfie, captioning it “Living the life”, you get 309 likes but really what’s inside is a different story. Living which life by the way? The miserable life? That’s the same as having a clean pot outside but what’s inside is rot and filthy.
Understand this, outside appearances mean little to nothing. It’s the inner peace, the inner tranquil, the inner joy that counts. As soon as you understand that when you look at a mirror, and you don’t have doubts or hate the person stirring back up at you, then you on your way up.
How many times have you heard of rich people commit suicide? How many times have we heard about the seemingly happy couple end up in a very nasty divorce? Just recently we have a very senior Zambia Airforce Colonel who shot his wife after a seemingly 40 years of a happy model marriage, not 40 weeks or 40 months or 40 days, 40 whole bloody years, convincing people they were the model couple, at church being looked up to at St Ignatius Parish, everyone thought they were “The Couple” only to hear about a very horrific ending..
Sometimes even a relationship that seems to be the happiest maybe biggest bondage and prison. Sometimes it’s your family, or type of friends or job or secret destructive habit that you have like watching porn or masturbation or gossiping or lying and backbiting others or not keeping secrets and promise that is your biggest source of unhappiness. Whatever it is, understand your source of unhappiness and begin to work on your fears day by day bit by bit.. if you can do something about your situation, ACT ON IT TODAY. Only action cures fear
Sometimes what seems to be always isn’t the case, sometimes appearance is different from reality. Those who seem to be the happiest and loudest often are the saddest and emptiest, that’s why you should never admire another’s life, never admire those who seem rich or happy and content. The best you can do in life is be you, be simple, play you, know thy self, fight your battles in silence and just be the best at what is it that you do.
The rest is none of your concern..
I’ve been in a place and situation where people cheer me, where I have fame but inside am full of emptiness and doubts and believe me it’s not a happy place. The heart sometimes can be the loneliest empty house your soul ever lived in, especially if you do not resolve your issues, confront your past and accept the previous failures and make a clear resolution to forge ahead..
Do not stay in captivity, He came to set the captives free…
Pishamo Pen muntu wandi and live a happy life..
Blessed Sunday to you..
By Mwaba Mutale
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Good article. Just now and after voting I was thinking of passing through a bar to drink one or two and start waiting for results but as you point out happiness has to come from within. I have gone around and have seen that many people are drinking either after voting or before they go and vote. At one place the multitude made me think of the consequences of such actions. Innocent people may be the victims of all that. Sometimes through our excitement we inflict suffering on other people.
Its true that people aren’t always as they seem. Though some people look happy and liberated outwardly, inside they could be hurting.
Each person has his own orientations towards socializing, and one type isn’t better or worse than another person’s orientation. For instance, preferring to spend your weekends reading at home isn’t inferior to wanting to hang out with six friends at all times. Some common areas where people want to be true to themselves are: Liking a lot of alone time. Others are not interested in things many people like, such as team sports.
Aside from the general peace of mind it can bring, being true to yourself can be the way to go for other reasons. Some things you just shouldn’t have to change
Some things are too central to a person’s identity to change for social reasons.
Good article and full of reality.However, some of the comments highlighting the church to be at the helm of good life may be completely untrue because Jesus does not dwell in those buildings you call church. Some people even call them ‘House of God’ or’ Temple’ but the house of God or the temple of God is your own heart, that’s where Jesus dwells
Oh yes Cletus Chanda hurt many of us. What a loss.
Great way of going yapes. Though I may just chip in a bit. Church does not comprise of the perfect beings but those that wish to find rest in the Lord.
If we take it all in the church will help us with the life shift we may be disappointed at the end.what we must be sure of is the rest and comfort in the head of every church. Jesus is the answer for sure
You are spot on.
No addition or subtraction to this article. Good one.
This article has a lot of truth. People who trust and fear God don’t live artificial lives and are very happy. I had such friends and got rid of all of them by telling them iam busy with church activities. I boost to them about the real me and they stopped playing with me. I have a new set of elderly ,educated, successful women from church as friends who don’t pretend. Speed kills live within your means and don’t be envious
Not always politics, this is how it should be… God bless u brother
Wonderful article
Thanks man, i have learnt something.
A great piece my brother! Its a big encouragement for my Sunday n other days come. Thanks
Mwaba, great article indeed…. You ve jst spoken to me this morning……
Why the lawn of the soul is rarely feiezlritd through devotion, care and service is not understood by me (or by Yoda). The great hack of the detritus should be commencing shortly lest the weeds grow tall and none any longer see the beauty of the grass therein.
Wouuuuuuh le beau coup de pub dans le mensuel scientifique Cosmopolitan de Septembre 2011, p88, en bas à gauche!Mais c'est que tu es une blogueuse mode influente ou bien???Ben dis donc, c'est la consécration ça!!! Pistonnée! :DMeuh non, c'est bien mérité! J'espère que ça t'amènera plus de flux, et plus de ventes pour ton bouquin.