BEING YOU, BEING TRUE TO YOURSELF: EXAMPLE OF LATE CLETUS CHANDA
Those of you who are in your late 20 going up will remember that we once had a very happy comedian on TV who rose through the ranks and became Zambia National Tourists Board Spokesman called Cletus Chanda, very famous at his time, very handsome with a ka small round face and satellite dish type of ears he resembled Samuel Eto.
While Cletus rose through the ranks and became famous, little did people know he was depressed and had issues. At the height of his fame, Cletus committed suicide.
The Nation was Shocked!
People just couldn’t understand what had just happened. Why would such a progressive young man, with so much potential, a very good job, nice house, happily married do such a thing??
Anyway, I think that’s the story with most of us…
While we seem happy and content on the outside, inside we really are hurting with a lot of unresolved feelings and hurts and disappointments… People aren’t always as they seem, inside many people are hurting, and like a chameleon, most have adapted to their situations and become masters of cover-ups.
Why do you think many people drink too much? Why you think there is so much effort on Facebook to look gorgeous and flawless from the ladies?
Many seek approval, wrong approval from man and not themselves and God. Mac powder and Brazilian hair and an expensive black or red lipstick can’t take away the pain love, it can hide your wrinkles but most definitely never take away the hurt and pain you have inside.. Wearing expensive clothes is nothing, going out to fancy places is nothing, ITS HOW YOU FEEL INSIDE THAT COUNTS..
Getting 250 likes on Facebook and pausing with fake happiness on a photo for people to see on Facebook won’t take away your inner despair, loneliness, frustrations, depression and pain.
If you know you have inner issues, begin to confront your problems one by one, begin to ask what is stealing your joy and happiness begin to be truthful to yourself and one by one begin to uproot your emotional disturbance and pain…
Many people who seem the happiest and ever smiling indeed are the saddest and loneliest souls on Earth. Instead of confronting their real situation, they have happy with their mediocre lifestyle and will do anything and everything to pause as happy but inside they are really hurting
No my brothers and sisters, that’s no way to live. Public opinion means nothing, the sooner you get that, the quicker you are on your way to happiness and genuine peace..
I mean what’s the use of taking a fake selfie, captioning it “Living the life”, you get 309 likes but really what’s inside is a different story. Living which life by the way? The miserable life? That’s the same as having a clean pot outside but what’s inside is rot and filthy.
Understand this, outside appearances mean little to nothing. It’s the inner peace, the inner tranquil, the inner joy that counts. As soon as you understand that when you look at a mirror, and you don’t have doubts or hate the person stirring back up at you, then you on your way up.
How many times have you heard of rich people commit suicide? How many times have we heard about the seemingly happy couple end up in a very nasty divorce? Just recently we have a very senior Zambia Airforce Colonel who shot his wife after a seemingly 40 years of a happy model marriage, not 40 weeks or 40 months or 40 days, 40 whole bloody years, convincing people they were the model couple, at church being looked up to at St Ignatius Parish, everyone thought they were “The Couple” only to hear about a very horrific ending..
Sometimes even a relationship that seems to be the happiest maybe biggest bondage and prison. Sometimes it’s your family, or type of friends or job or secret destructive habit that you have like watching porn or masturbation or gossiping or lying and backbiting others or not keeping secrets and promise that is your biggest source of unhappiness. Whatever it is, understand your source of unhappiness and begin to work on your fears day by day bit by bit.. if you can do something about your situation, ACT ON IT TODAY. Only action cures fear
Sometimes what seems to be always isn’t the case, sometimes appearance is different from reality. Those who seem to be the happiest and loudest often are the saddest and emptiest, that’s why you should never admire another’s life, never admire those who seem rich or happy and content. The best you can do in life is be you, be simple, play you, know thy self, fight your battles in silence and just be the best at what is it that you do.
The rest is none of your concern..
I’ve been in a place and situation where people cheer me, where I have fame but inside am full of emptiness and doubts and believe me it’s not a happy place. The heart sometimes can be the loneliest empty house your soul ever lived in, especially if you do not resolve your issues, confront your past and accept the previous failures and make a clear resolution to forge ahead..
Do not stay in captivity, He came to set the captives free…
Pishamo Pen muntu wandi and live a happy life..
Blessed Sunday to you..
By Mwaba Mutale