White man: Zambian women and begging

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Dear Zambia,

As a white man living in Zambia, who likes Zambian women, I would like to ask one thing. What is it with begging money from men ? Why do Zambian women think it is normal behaviour to beg for Talktime or ask for money or send SMSes or phone calls (especially on Tuesday when the buy get 1 pizza special is on) from men they have just met ?

Frankly I find myself in the embarassing situation of having to refuse these normally very polite and beautiful women. I would also like to know why do Zambian women think that if you are in any relationship with them then you essentially become a piggy bank to be emptied of any spare cash ?
I would like to know why if you buy something or send a Zambian girl to buy something for you almost certainly the change will be gone ? As much as I like women as much as any man, I get surprised by the number of Zambian women who throw themselves at any man who is white. It can really be difficult for me as a single man to go out and have fun when you are being pursued by any number of women ranging from prostitutes to expensively dressed and well spoken Zambian women.
I have no illusion that I am very good looking by any stretch. Finally why does every Zambian woman I have a relationship with want me to marry them and take them back with me to Canada. I maybe a muzungu but I am no fool nor do I intend to be some woman’s ticket out of poverty. That is why I have made up my mind as my three year stay in Zambia comes to an end, no Zambian women for me.

49 Responses to White man: Zambian women and begging

  1. “No Zambian women is a little harsh. As a man with the illlusion that I am quite attractive (but understanding the position of those who might not be) I have a tought time ruling out an entire nationality from my love life. Give everyone a chance, eh? Especially if you aren’t a catch on the other side of the Atlantic…

    November 30, 2012 at 6:52 am

  2. Says alot about the calibre of women yoú associate with. Broaden your horizon

    November 30, 2012 at 7:09 am

  3. Nice to hear a muzungu reason like that,its common here in zambia that muzungu are gate way of poverty.

    November 30, 2012 at 8:27 am

  4. its not just muzungu its anyone who leaves abroad,our own once radio phoenix dj miles or mzamose zulu crooekd a zambian guy living in uk and staged a fake wedding just to go to england,these women are like parasites,they only follow were honey is,

    November 30, 2012 at 5:41 pm

  5. i agree with most blogs,these women just want to get free things for nothing,its only in zambia,if u go to congo most women r hard workin,zambia women,if its not fake marrieges like mzamose zulu its drug dealing..etc or sleepin with ministers just to get favours from work,…

    rupiar mwale
    November 30, 2012 at 5:44 pm

  6. What you are forgetting to tell us is where this stupid white man comes from. Everywhere in in the world people from all walks of life beg. Does he tell me there no people, prostitutes who beg in in this white man’s land. Come on take this story off the page you are just one of those people glorifying the Mzungu.

    Mwanakayaya Suntwe
    December 1, 2012 at 4:48 am

  7. I think this was written by Mr. Kalaki, Roy clarke. Women sense when the value of a relationship is simply sex, a 20 year old you find at manda hill Mr. Kalaki knows that you are not into marriage. So she milks you knowing you will eventually ask to bonk.

    Paul White
    December 1, 2012 at 4:33 pm

  8. Its not only Zambian ladies mind you even ladies from your place even if you didnt disclose your nationality i know it really happens across the globe…..

    December 4, 2012 at 11:46 am

  9. I agree with most comments here, i think to put all Zambian women in a bucket and judge them that way is unfair. I am dating a Muzungu for years and never begged a cent from him. I am financially independent to the extent i have no reason to keave Zambia to go and live like a begger in another country. Mind you, generally average Zambians are well spoken – including prostitutes and those beggers you have mentioned. Perhaps you may want to recheck where you are meeting these women and what message your behavour/actions are sending:.Such behavours and women like you described are all over the globe not only Zambia…….too bad you have missed something unique in a Zmabian women . Good luck

    December 7, 2012 at 7:56 pm

  10. As you serious! C’mon people. . . .why judge Zambian women this harsh. If you find a good Zambian woman, you will be happy for a very long time. They are respectful, hardworking and if you are lucky to find an independent woman – it will cause you to feel insecure/little inadequate even if you are a Muzungu.

    All jokes apart, Zambian Women are good. Where are you meeting these women you describe? What impression is being given?

    December 11, 2012 at 3:21 pm

  11. to the muzungu this is my diagnosis of you,you came to zambia, could’nt believe the amount of attention you have been getting from ladies, for the 1st couple of months you probably thought zambia was heaven on earth,due to the fact that your probably a loser back in canada and girls dont pay you any attention,but know you’v realised after sex with endless prostitutes) which may i remind you is a global proffession and the oldest trade)that sex is not everything so you decide to take the time to slug off zambian girls,i think muzungu you need your brain examined

    January 24, 2013 at 6:07 am

  12. Woman is one of the most beautifull things god ever made for men an judgeing one this way is not right men are the one to blem most of us men love to much woman to day we with one tomorrow with an orther a woman needs to be loved why give a woman baby boy or girl an live her what you want them to do steal an kill men be real am eldon g from st lucia an I respect woman.

    February 11, 2013 at 12:45 am

  13. Strange!?? Must have associated yourself with a class that doesn’t have a formal income. Any human, from any part of the world is likely to ask when in need. For your info: my older brother that is Zambian is married to a Canadian WHITE woman and guess what they( ie including kids ) depend on his income! So don’t know why you are going on when people in your country ask for money too!

    March 30, 2013 at 7:32 pm

  14. wow,how hypocritical, zambian women unlike your pale skinned canadian sweethearts, they are clever. the same way that you recognise that they are just after your money,they also know that you are not looking for a serious relationship, infact what you want is someone to keep your bed warm for the duration of your stay in zambian.

    Those women that have supposedly being throwing themselves at you, i can only asume that they must be desperate indeed. i think you must be poor, if you were then why did you live your beloved canada and go to a third world country like zambian? do not think that because you are white that you are some type of god/saviour, you must ask Real Zambian men why they treat their Zambian women like Queens.

    I have dated different races,and the thing you should know about us zambian women is that we dont date for the sake of dating. unless you are 12yrs old, i really think that the whole purpose of dating is to find out if two people are compatible enough to be life partners. those of us, who grew up with proper home training we dont do cohabiting, because we understand that a womens virtue is a mans greatest glory.This might be a shocker too, but men also pay lobola.

    My advise is that you stick to your canadian women, because if buying airtime is a big issue for you, i wonder what will happen if you finally decide to settle down and have to pay lobola?? hell will probably be reading another threat about how her parents over charged you.

    April 2, 2013 at 8:09 am

  15. You are definately the imperialist that people talk about. You just want to reap and go ehhh. It is a man’s responsibility to take care of the woman in his life. So grow up. Dont tell us that your father doesnt provide for you and your mother. You must be coming from a very bad family with no values at all. We dont need you in our beautiful Zambia. Please pack and go back to your cold Canadian women and leave us alone. Fool.

    I suppose the women you associate with are cheap prostitutes right? Most of us are well off and have no need of sleeping with toads like you. You must be poverty stricken yourself no wonder you left your country to come to Zambia. Like I said, please pack your poverty stricken bag and leave our women. Fool

    April 19, 2013 at 8:18 pm

    • someone had to put him in his place. sha!!

      July 23, 2013 at 6:30 am

  16. Day 10 and 5 pounds less, fantastic and keep going on )

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    May 3, 2013 at 3:27 am

  17. Excuse me!!! You narrow minded Mzungu! You must check the social circles you associate yourself with! Am sure you have no class! Many women do ask for things but for you to judge an entire nations women means you are shallow! You are entitled to an opinion but yours is by far the most stupid thing I have heard! Argh! Its men like you that bring about racial division!

    May 20, 2013 at 6:06 am

  18. Its true Muzungu. I also have a good time with white women throwing themselves at me on account of our reputation for being well endowed. I was in Sydney (Australia) and me and my Zambian black guys couldn’t have a drink in peace with all these white women throwing themselves at us. Zambian women have a misconception that every white man is loaded with cash just like most white women thing every black man is well endowed

    May 21, 2013 at 10:29 am

  19. To be honest if you guys read that I think its a black man that wrote that…..probably the chick left him for a man with more money….that’s a childish way of how to handle a personal matter……..but if it really is a muzungu that posted this then bamudala its because you went ku addis ababa to try and get yourself some hit and run and you most def found yourself a victim of a hit and run…..mind you some of us are independent and not desperate for your ngwes that you are trying to come out like you have……you really sound primitive for a white man makes me wonder if u are just not from the chibolyas of your country…….don’t come to our country and talk crap about us if you have nothing good to say shut up and sit down

    May 26, 2013 at 3:08 pm

  20. Would you like to invest in some sort of business then?

    Liya Suki
    May 26, 2013 at 4:01 pm

  21. greetings guys . I am a muzungu and met a wonderful girl from Lusaka . I had my first child in Sesheke . My second in Lusaka . HEY YOU CHEAP MUZUNG !!! get off your high horse ,note how he mentions that he is so good looking !!! What a dik hed !! with his attitude he will marry a muzungu girl who will sting him so hard and take his house away from him and the rest !! I am so happy with my wife and seriously wish I could had made more children with her . My 2 children are fantastic and have a lot of their mothers attributes -including good looks and temperament I love her so much. You Zambians hold your head up high because you hold a special place in my heart and although we live in Europe now I will never forget the country and its people I came love so much !!! GOD BLESS YOU ALL !!! and tula wena to this cheap Canadian muzungu !!!

    Alan Van Rensburg
    June 9, 2013 at 3:18 pm

  22. i agre wth wendy and elizabeth it does show the kind of women ur in2.i maself m 23 i work pay 4maa own condo cloth maself i dnt nd a whiteman 4tht mater to provide 4me m miss INDEPENDENT.jst th thot of u blamn th entire nation does brin racism and morover i prefer a dark skin african man nt white cant lyk u

    August 21, 2013 at 3:08 pm

  23. Hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahhahahahahhahahahaha………seriously????? :-D:-D:-D:-D:-D:-D:-D:-D:-D:-D

    November 9, 2013 at 5:36 pm

  24. the world is diverse with invible borders that legalisticly separate,howeva pipo invariably attracted by the principle’birds of a feather’has hit him hard. move your tables in life;b4 it’s too late(hiv/aids).

    November 19, 2013 at 8:08 am

  25. Don’t talk crap! Just bcoz u are a muzungu it doesn’t mean u can talk anyhow…. Am 20 and have been dating a muzungu 4 2 years now and we are planing 2 get married this month so SHUT THE HElL UP!! Coz pipo are different u are just stupid and full of urself. NXA!!

    keziah cox
    December 2, 2013 at 2:43 pm

  26. The original comment made me laugh, what a tool!!
    I’ve been with a beautiful Zambian lady for over ten years now, we met on the net and I went over to Zambia to meet her. It was amazing.
    After staying there for a few months we managed to get a visa sorted for the UK, she had to take English exams and get her nursing diplomas transferred and certified to the UK equivalent.
    This she paid for herself, I offered to help but I was refused point blank!!
    Since living together she has contributed to the up keep of the house, the bills and groceries, with out me mentioning it.
    Anyway we’ve been together 11 years and married 6. With a many more years to come.
    The Zambian women I have met are all extremely loyal, honest, trustworthy, faithful and hard working. You definitely won’t go far wrong if you find the one….
    Not sure where the original poster found his women.
    Are you sure you were actually in Zambia and not Thailand???

    January 31, 2014 at 11:42 pm

    • Thank you Adam! If someone is going to consider an interracial relationship then they ought to consider that people differ and are similar regardless colour of skin. We are all the human race. PS – Do you have a brother by any chance??? LOL!

      March 27, 2014 at 9:16 pm

      • Hey Savannah .. I’m not Adam’s brother LOL, but I’m a mzungu who _loves_ Zambian women! .. and I think I’m a decent guy .. you be the judge, give me a try!

        August 18, 2015 at 7:26 am

  27. Hi to the White Men that think they are all that cause of the color,you guys are not even attractive your skin puts me off,I lived in a white country before and white men used to throw themselves at me to marry them it used to get on my nerve cause I couldn’t stand most of them,came I love my black men,they won’t kill us and burry us,or do drugs,or need a pills for everthing even wen having sex white men need pills,so all the white men you came to Zambia for sex and u want to get it for free!you use black women for sexual experiments cause you have heard that ONCE YOu Go BLACK YOU NEVER GO BACK so you expect these girls to get nothing out of it,you just dirty and cheap please!asuall you are used to salverly days and u want to turn my fellow Zambian women into slaves,my Zambian women 90%of white men are pervits,be careful that’s why they are running to Africa cause in their countries they can’t get jobs and are not respected,Now ask yourselve who Brought HIV!

    March 19, 2014 at 2:15 pm

  28. I can agree with you “Muzungu” to some extent. However, women will be women, regardless where they come from. Bottom line is that we are all human and human nature with of course the influence of the social norms will rule the day most times. You may not have been socialising with the right crowd, and maybe you were but just got harrased. There a re plenty of women in Zambia with integrity and pride enough to not beg. Do not be fooled. Good women are out there. It is sad these beggers are giving a bad name to the good women. I guess it also depends on what exactly you are looking for and your perceptions of African and in this case Zambian women. Like i said, women will be women world over, but men will also be men. Good luck!

    March 27, 2014 at 9:12 pm

  29. Hahah I love white men but am so hurting this white man who posted this clap

    June 18, 2014 at 10:23 pm

  30. Funny how white men think there are the centre of the

    Zambian girl!
    July 23, 2014 at 8:49 pm

  31. I find white guys disgusting, creepy and most of them are perverts, I don’t why some black chicks dig them, our African men are so handsame with beautiful skin,
    Notice white people’s skin ” looks like a pig”

    Zambian girl!
    July 23, 2014 at 8:57 pm

  32. Funny how white men think there are the centre of the universe!!

    Zambian girl!
    July 23, 2014 at 9:00 pm

    • That is the most racist shit I have read in a long time, haha ‘zambian girl’ you are an absolute embarrassment to yourself, and the people of Zambia. Oh dear haha

      August 12, 2014 at 5:57 pm

      • I am proud of the person am, I came from a hard working family, I will never bow down or even beg a white person or any man generally, and NO am not racist!! BUT the creep who wrote this article , judged a whole nation based on a few wrong people he met and put it up online for the whole world to see, eventually Other people will automatically judge us and think all zambian women or people are simply beggers!!

        Am a proud Zambian nothing brings me down and it stays that way!

        Zambian girl!
        August 24, 2014 at 10:34 pm

  33. People get defensive only when truth is told bluntly. We Africans are currently living on money that we beg from “white” countries. We beg as governments, as individuals and as genders. The term HIPC did not result from hard work, it came from hard begging and want. Neo-colonialism is fueled not by powerful atomic bombs but by hard begging. We beg, we beg, we beg. We beg from rich relatives, we need victim support units to protect widows and orphans from thieving relatives and beggar relations and we kick out governments which do not give us subsidies. They do not give us subsidies because they have to beg for this money. We beg in the office and we beg on the streets. 25 year old men beg from their fathers and girls beg from men they hardly know. We beg for reductions on pre-set bus fares and we beg to pay less when caught speeding at speed traps. The police beg us back when we cannot pay. We need donor oversight in our ministries because for fifty years we have been begging and then stealing like we are entitled to other people’s tax money. The biggest internet scammers are African and the poorest economies are on this continent where riches abound. We borrow their insults and even their sermons. We drive the cars they give or throw away and have no plans to produce any of our own.We wear their second-hand clothes and we shoot our children with their guns and bullets as we fight over resources to sell to them. We send our leaders to be tried in their courts and if they do not monitor our elections, we cheat. Political leaders are chosen by the number of crates of beer they GIVE away and even by gifts of low quality t-shirts and cheap chitenge materials. Cadres beat each other to please those they beg from and we think such things go unnoticed by the this West we pretend to hate? Our best minds are clamouring at their borders for jobs, some even dying at sea to go and further develop Europe and the whites must respect us for all that? And which Zambian family refuses to allow their daughter to marry white (even much older white), yet we reject each other on tribal lines. Do NGOs get support from rich Zambians and other ordinary income earners? When was the last time we gave money to a charity? NGOs beg from abroad, and they beg hard. Churches, too,beg from abroad even for things they can buy themselves. We beg, people, we beg. Their women may consider us well-endowed sexually,a mere fiction, but if we are in their country we are probably there to ‘escape’ something back home; not usually as powerful investors. All this and we choose to attack a guy why who is saying exactly what most…all Zambian men complain about in the offices, bars and churches just because he is of a different colour? I beg to differ. He should have generalised a lot more, in fact. For sure even the average Zambian man perceives white men as either better financially or knowledge endowed. Around white men they act like little flirts themselves-even if they are better educated they will bring in a white consultant to add flavour to their operations. Which of us would work for a wholly-black Zambian company if there is a chance to work for a smaller white-owned operation? To shut our critics up, we have to change our conduct; no matter how acidic our yelling we are increasingly perceived negatively by a lot of white visitors to our country, and we perceive ourselves the same way, if truth be told. To talk of “circles” is mere desperate denial when the average Zambian person is out of a job and desperate for survival-which circles are there to chose from when the same higher circles refuse to associate with their own lower-class brethren…because they beg too much? Hypocrites! You rarely visit your own poor relatives and a muzungu must not notice them when they beg from him? Even Zambian Doctors working in their own villages of origin, must be paid ‘hardship’ money because life in the poor areas is hard. It’s as if those citizens already experiencing these rural hardships are foreign refugees. Little is done to help so, of course, such poor people will beg; because they must. Jobless, lowly paid or simply poor girls beg to survive, poor men beg to feed their families…poor governments beg so they can have salaries…we beg, we beg, we beg and the world hates it.

    August 20, 2014 at 12:21 am

    • It’s a crying shame.

      May 20, 2018 at 1:24 pm

  34. As a white guy myself who is married to a zambian lady I think u are not opening your eyes and being narrow minded.I am married to the most beautiful,loyal,hardworking,kind,loving woman and have never been asked for anything other than to be a good husband.You get good and bad everywhere.Pls don’t stereotype zambian women.

    January 9, 2015 at 1:03 am

  35. Oh plz..ALL ZAMBIAN women? Are you serious? Do you survey propery… you must been in that situation two or three times and you concluded that ALL Zambian women? If i knew were to find you…i would have invited you to my place…so that you can see that not all are what you say we are….you english is not even good…you are not Canadian! Infact…am sure you just didn’t get what you wanted from one or three ( to give you a little credit) women, became bitter and came up with this theory! Wooooooow! I acually petty you! Go to right places…not all will even notice you existing! Sha!#independentwomannomuzunguneeded

    May 8, 2015 at 4:06 pm

  36. Zambian women are unique. To be frank with u, u were picking prostitutes not decent women. I like the behaviour of Zambian women and am very sure they are not beggars at all.

    May 18, 2015 at 1:44 pm

  37. Hi mr muzungu, firstly i want to say that i kinda agree and disagree with you. Am a 19 years old zambian girl myself and i know how other girls or young women like me think. Its hard to find a girl who truly loves you and not only for your money i knew that but before you ask a girl out you should frist know and study her. Zambian girls tend to take advantage of their boyfriend’s kindness and turn them into banks, now i might not know what love is because i have never experienced it but this much i know, if she loves you because of what you have then she dose not love you at all. Not all the girls are the same, you are just not looking in the right place. I totally understand you. But one thing i can tell you is that look in the right place and you will find what or who you are looking for. In short just look in front of you. Take care Mr MUZUNGU

    December 6, 2015 at 10:15 am

  38. I am I Zambian young lady who likes white men.Sir really your post is rude,you can’t judge all the ladies based on what you experienced.Anyway safe trip back to Canada.

    January 16, 2016 at 12:53 pm

  39. I am a Zambian young lady who likes white men.Sir really your post is rude,you can’t judge all the ladies based on what you experienced.Anyway safe trip back to Canada.

    January 16, 2016 at 12:53 pm

  40. what do you expect when you pick your women from pubs?

    smoking my cigar
    March 22, 2016 at 12:15 pm

  41. it’s actually a 3rd world problem not “Zambian”. whiteys are seen as rich people even in Asian countries especially the Philippines..

    October 26, 2018 at 8:08 pm

  42. The writer of this article is a biased, uninformed and ignorant muzungu who thinks Zambian women are all stranded. Far from the truth. My take is that this uncultured fellow after associating with cheap prostitutes has come to a conclusion that all Zambian women are the same. Stupid, shallow, and unfortunate.Widen your hozizon and you may just find yourself applying for change of citizenship.

    June 5, 2019 at 10:49 am

  43. Actually not all women are like that…. I my self my boyfriend is indian n his surprised with how I behave cause he also thought I would be begging him for money n etc but I don’t do that… So Mr White man u have just been meeting wrong woman the ones responsible for ruining our reputation us Zambian girls..

    Valeria micaela
    November 13, 2019 at 12:27 am

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