Pretty Girl Syndrome

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By Mwanangwa Zombe

I always thought being pretty must make life easy! Possibly free drinks, free meals, free airtime, lots of attention and if you play your cards right, you get jobs handed to you. Well boy wasn’t I wrong ?.

Sometimes being physically attractive takes away from your personality because people only become interested in how you look and not always who you are. In the worst case scenario, when you look really hot, some even assume you’re promiscuous.

So in the real sense, you have hundreds of people wanting to know you but less than a dozen people who actually care about you. By design, you get into relationships that don’t always materialize as hoped for not because you’ve become ugly without make up but because pretty is like fashion and if a man doesn’t like you for who you are, they will probably find another thing more appealing.

Sadly, no one remembers the man so the blame is on you, taumfwa. In so being by design, you become closed up and reveal less of yourself in the process and you develop an attitude not because you’re cheeky but as a defence mechanism from all the nonsense around you. You keep so many things to yourself because your levels of trust are very low. People will always see the pretty face but not the ugly things you keep bottled inside. You end up finding satisfaction in strangers, social media clicks, movies or songs as your go to guides.

Friendships become more like partnerships in competition so you can’t fully rely on them for council. Of course there’s a couple of real friends and these you’ll try to hold on like your life depended on it and really it does. Suicidal thoughts peer in once in a while but then, you have ambitions to fulfil plus suicide is just too darn hard to pull through. You know what my friend, you’re not alone.

There’s a world of pretty girls with thousands of followers yet feel so lonely. However, I don’t have a lasting solutions but I have one option that will provide you all the solution you’ll ever need, give God a chance. Chase a dream, set some goals, stop competing with people, stop trying to please them, know yourself, be yourself and no matter what, love life!!!

I’m not a pretty girl, I’m a poet, I learn emotions like they were my own, that’s my gift.


7 Responses to Pretty Girl Syndrome

  1. I love not pretty girls because they easily reach marginal ultility level at tender age

    May 15, 2017 at 8:27 pm

  2. I don’t like pretty Gil’s because all eyes are on them. This makes them stubborn and stupid

    They then say this relationship can end a more responsible man will propose me.

    Believe me pretty girls are a problem

    If u ran out of money they say u have finished me

    May 16, 2017 at 5:10 am

  3. One point pretty girls don’t know is that some men only would want to use there beauty for a while finito

    May 16, 2017 at 5:13 am

  4. the beauty of the body without that of the heart is nothing but sweetened poison<

    pass miz
    May 16, 2017 at 12:55 pm

  5. Pretty girls are for flirting while ugly ones we marry

    May 17, 2017 at 12:13 pm

  6. Human nature is such that we desire to be closer to something pretty, beautiful and wonderful, If it is a flower we want to pick, if it is a car we want to drive, if it is a song we want to have it and if it is a woman or man we want to possess. Women and Men have committed suicide after discovering that the beautiful person they thought they possessed is found in a relationship with somebody. This is because among the things we are ready to die for is beauty.Ask many Many people why they would like to get married to a beautiful person and many will tell you that they want to feel great and also have beautiful Children.We care about the beautiful future.

    May 27, 2017 at 10:31 pm

  7. good piece of poetry,creative and brings out realities.

    somebody to help me please,can you marry somebody who is not physically attracted to you as long as she is goodhearted?

    June 5, 2017 at 2:36 pm

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