Our former Garden Boy wants the Children he had with me, please help

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I am a lady aged 40 years working as an HOD at a certain secondary school in Kitwe. I have been married to the same man for 20 years now. we got married on 24 August 1998 in Lusaka and transferred to the Copperbelt. 6 years after marriage we had no child as my husband had lo sperm count. Doctors said he cannot father me with any child as he was infertile.  But because of the demands from him to have children, I secretly decided to entice our garden boy who was five years younger than me so that we can have sex and have kids for my loving husband. I am not a kind of a person who like going out with other men and the sexual encounter with the garden boy was the first outside marriage.


Fortunately that month, I conceived and I gave birth to a baby girl and my husband happily named her Blessings/Mapalo. After two years I again engaged in sexual relationship with the same garden boy and I gave birth to a baby boy.


My husband has even bought me three cars and two houses for giving him “two children”. I have even been to Europe and USA for holidays with my husbands and kids. Our marriage has been a happy one until last month when our former garden boy who works in ZAMBEEF now decided to demand for his children. He came to school where I teach and threatened to take me to court if i don’t surrender his two children. I pleaded with him to allow me to continue having sex with him so that he does not take the children but he has refused. I treied to give him K20,000, he took the money but still demands for his children.

This incident will be more embarrassing to my husband who believes are his biological children and will even kill himself since he has BP. I dont know how my in laws, biological parents and workmates will be treating me once they discover the two kids are not for my loving husband. My husband is infertile according to what doctors told me. All my two children resembles my former garden boy.

what should I do please help. I wanted to take my own life but i fear hell. I am extremely disturbed now and I have even gone on local leave.


Advise this lady..




21 Responses to Our former Garden Boy wants the Children he had with me, please help

  1. Just threaten the boy for defamation of character and deny his story by involving the police to intimidate him. Those kids are bound to have a better education with the imposter farmer than a Zambeef boy.

    March 7, 2017 at 7:30 pm

  2. Is this lady trying to let her husband know

    Na uze
    March 7, 2017 at 9:54 pm

  3. This should be upnd

    March 8, 2017 at 2:31 am

    • Abigail. Is it politics all the time. What has UPND got to do with this woman who had an extramarital affair? If you had nothing to contribute who could have just kept quiet.

      March 8, 2017 at 12:40 pm

  4. Abigail, you are mad. What has UPND got to do with this?

    Prince Mande
    March 8, 2017 at 5:57 am

  5. BOZA, this story should be coming from a close friend to the lady who intend to spill the beans to the friends husband

    March 8, 2017 at 7:15 am

  6. I think Abigal is also bonked by a garden boy!

    man ghee
    March 8, 2017 at 9:47 pm

  7. Abigal if this is yr real name am sure u will learn something you thought people will be interested with your swallow thinking, of changing the matter in discussion by coming up with a silly comment. am sure even at school you were dull by giving wrong answers during maths time you give a history answer.

    mususa mwape
    March 9, 2017 at 5:32 am

  8. Only the mother knows the Father of her kids, that’s a fact! What makes the Garden boy so sure that even him those are his kids? It’s all because of what you told him yourself. You may as well change position and make him ready to face consequences of breaking your marriage in the event that ‘things’ prove him wrong.

    Stand on your feet and stop giving him anything, sex or money because he will never stop coming back. Be the first to tell him you are reporting this matter to Police. He has no evidence that those are his kids apart from the two of you knowing that you used to meet. Even then, I believe he has no evidence to prove that in Court.

    In all cases, avoid the issue of DNA because those kids will definitely suffer from that mistake you made with the garden boy.

    At the same time, you sound well to do. You should have discussed this matter with your husband before engaging the garden boy. If you loved your husband even after being told like that by Doctors, you could have adopted children or even gone for artificial insemination.

    Wish you luck.

    Pa Tower
    March 9, 2017 at 7:33 am

  9. pa tower if u follow the lady well she said that her husband has low sperm count meaning he cant produce so she is sure that apart from the husband the only person she slept with was the garden boy.

    mususa mwape
    March 9, 2017 at 8:52 am

  10. Am shocked this woman is talking about another man, a garden boy of having impregnanted her,when am the father of the two kids. we used to bonk each other ruthlessly and non stop on so many occassions with this woman, live in all manner possible. She is sweet for real……Now, i will sue this same garden boy . If there is any man who should claim to be the father of the kids is me….more will follow on this issue…..i will not rest until justice occurs.

    Mr. Handsome
    March 9, 2017 at 8:58 am

  11. it is sad my sister you made a mistake by telling your garden boy that you wanted to be sleeping with him because you wanted to have children you see now this guy want to start making money on you he knows you are able to give any amount he can ask from you he is blackmailing you just tell him you had another boyfriend whom you were sleeping with and he is the father of your children

    March 9, 2017 at 11:16 am

  12. Fake story. Amaule yekala tondolo.

    Pafwa bantu Pashala bantu
    March 9, 2017 at 12:14 pm

  13. You made mistake for disclosing everything to somebody who was just sperm donor.You did love your husband.All you shud have said you want sex not saying he was infertile and telling boy the kids were his.You cannot refuse now.Anyway,the boy cannot benefit from crime,find a way to threaten him.Do not succumb to blackmail

    March 9, 2017 at 1:17 pm

  14. fake story

    March 9, 2017 at 2:12 pm

    • You’re in the exam room, would this be your answer?

      March 9, 2017 at 3:53 pm

  15. Just tell the garden boy that he was not the only one you were sleeping with. You can even tell him that your husband had undergone urological treatment which had cured his infertility leading to a dramatic increase in his sperm count. You can also tell him that you did a DNA test on all the children and have unimpeachable proof that none of them belong to the garden boy. Conclude this with a dire warning that you have already reported him to the police for blackmail and the police will soon be visiting him.

    March 10, 2017 at 6:41 am

  16. Abigail, the thighs opener.

    March 10, 2017 at 8:01 am


    March 14, 2017 at 11:54 am

  18. There is nothing this woman can do she has already landed her self in problems. Even if she threatened the garden by nothing will work out. infact threatening the garden boy will just worsen her woos.

    March 16, 2017 at 7:15 am

  19. This is not a true story but fiction.

    With all those details about the garden boy, name of child, cars and houses with school at which she is HOD, this woman has revealed her identity.

    I dont buy this Its fake

    Truth Chushinka
    March 16, 2017 at 12:47 pm

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